Have you ever felt that kind of feeling that you are too tired to fight? Too tired of getting hurt? Too tired of holding on? But at the same time, you are more scared of letting go because you still love the person despite of all the hardships. How do you exactly know when to hold on and when to let go?
This is probably the most difficult part of a relationship. Letting go of someone you never thought you’d ever do. How do you know you are making the right decision? Here are some possible signs that it is time to let go.
Less TALK; More FIGHT
This is kind of self-explanatory. If you cannot remember the last time you and your partner talked like a normal couple then that is definitely not a good sign. But if you can remember every time you two fight then that is another bad sign and if you fight literally about everything, even just a tiny little thing, then you should start thinking that it is not normal anymore and that maybe you two are no longer compatible and are both going through something that neither both of you can solve.
If you try and always just agree on things even if you think or feel otherwise, it is not called sacrificing if it happens all the time. It is like being blind to the fact that you are no longer happy and he/she is only happy because they always get what they want and that is pretty selfish on their side to not consider how you feel exactly. Being selfless has to have its limits because people might take advantage of it.
Living in the Past and NOT in the Present
You are holding onto that tiny little chance you have that your partner will get his/her act together and be the best partner to you again. Even if he/she tells you they’re going to change like more than 10x already, you still have hope. There is nothing wrong with having hope, but there is something wrong with you if you still believe their lies over and over.
You are too blind and pretending that everything will be fine and will be the same again, even if your partner is already abusing the fact that you are too understanding that no matter how much he/she hurts you, you wouldn’t really mind since you love them too much. It is time to wake up and tell yourself that it is not worth it anymore. Don’t hold on to the memories of the past, live in the present and face the truth so you could move on and be happy in the future.
Your relationship is holding you BACK
Every one of us wants to be happy with the people we love, but what if the people we love doesn’t want us to do the things that actually make us happy? What if you want to travel the world and your partner doesn’t? What if you want to have a family of your own but your partner doesn’t?
A companion in life is someone who would support you in whatever dreams you have, someone who would be there for you and cheer you when you fail, someone who wouldn’t let you feel like you shouldn’t be doing certain things. If your partner is trying to change yourself and your goals, then it is something you should be concerned about. He/She doesn’t have the right to do that especially if you are doing nothing wrong.
It just shows how incompatible you two basically are and it is not ok. He/She should accept you for who you are and what your goals are. They should push and support you not hold you back. If this is happening to you then have a talk with your partner and if it doesn’t go well then it is probably time to let go before you hurt each other badly because you have made the wrong decisions.