Nobody wants to spend the rest of their lives by themselves. Most of us dream of finding the perfect partner, move in together, get married, have children and live happily ever after. But some people say that is just too good to be true. How can you really tell if you are in a mature or immature relationship? How will you know if your current partner is serious about you and sees you in his or her future? Here are some signs that you are in a mature relationship.
You RESPECT each other
RESPECT is one of the greatest expressions of love. Some people think this is easy and yet there are a lot of couples who just don’t know their boundaries and always end up getting hurt because they forget that they should respect each other. You can simply do this by giving them their own space and their privacy. Just because you are a couple does not mean you are not allowed to have your own privacy. If you want your partner to give you privacy then you should give it to him/her as well.
Respect him/her as your partner and as a person.
You find time to be with each other
Time is everything. It is infinite; therefore, we will always have it. No one is too busy because it is all about priorities. If you are in a mature relationship, you and your partner should always have time for each other. No matter how busy a person is, they must always find time for the things that are important. A person who is serious about a relationship would know what things are important are and what are the things that can wait.
If your partner is always too busy with work and cannot find time for you, then he/she is just too busy with his/her own life. Yes, they may say that they love you and they are doing it for your future. It may seem sweet, but too much of this “excuse” is not right. If they could not find time for you now, it gives the impression that you’re not important to that person.
And if you are the type of person who is too focused on work that you don’t have time for anything else, then maybe you should stay single for a while because a relationship needs to be worked out by two people. It is not fair to your partner.
If you always wait and wait and wait for your partner to find time for you, then he/she may not be mature enough to handle things right because they couldn’t figure out what matters to them.
REMEMBER: It is not difficult to find time, as long as you know your priorities and responsibilities as a partner then you’ll manage.
Fight = Kiss & Make Up NOT Break Up
Arguments will always be there, no matter how long you have been together. It is completely normal for a couple to fight. But there is a difference between an immature and mature relationship when they are fighting.
In immature relationships, couples fight to prove a point, to prove that the other is wrong and must admit to it. This kind of couple can shout and curse at each other (some even hurt each other physically) and also some say things that are very insulting and unnecessary.
Mature Relationships – This type of couple sits down and talk, one will listen while the other talks. They will point out what went wrong, who did the wrong thing and will apologize. Raising voices may be involved but they will make sure that the day will not end until they make up and figure things out.
Communication is KEY
This is probably the most important thing to have for a mature relationship. And it goes with two simple things:
Listening: You shouldn’t listen to reply. You should listen to your partner’s thoughts and feelings. You should make her feel as if he/she can talk to you about anything whether it is a good or a bad thing. Making him/her feel secure with the fact that you are there for her without judging what their actions will make your relationship better. And your partner should do the same to you. Open your minds and hearts for each other because it gives you two an opportunity to either fix things or make things better for the benefit of the relationship
Talking: Keeping things and holding grudges with your partner is not healthy for a relationship. You should always tell him/her how you feel and what your thoughts are. Find the right time to talk and try to be respectful about it. Take it slow because it might become a rant that could annoy your partner.
You Talk About the FUTURE
If you truly are in a serious relationship, you would be able to talk to your partner about your future together. He/She would be making plans for your future together like having a family or traveling the world together. If she is not too keen about it then maybe he/she is not ready to take the next step but then if you two have been together for years and is both in the right age then it wouldn’t hurt to ask why he/she doesn’t want to talk about it. If your partner’s ideal future is not the same as yours then you may just be wasting your time.
Don’t sacrifice your true happiness just because you love someone. In the end, both of you will suffer and will end up getting hurt.
Having a mature relationship with someone will never be easy. For every moment you two spend it is a learning process. You learn about each other every day, good or bad, you will accept it.